A few weeks ago, I was driving from a private HypnoBirthing class at a home to a start of my new group HypnoBirthing class in a half-hour, when my phone rang.
I picked up. It was Wayne, the husband of my recent HypnoBirthing student from a group class that finished last week. His wife Lilliana and he were “cutting it close”, when they began the class at her week 35. It is advisable to start the HypnoBirthing class around week 25, as with any educational formats involving weeks of attendance and practice, leaving the time for practice afterward. Yet, Lilliana was “coming in hot.” By the end of the class, she was 40 weeks, and according to her doctor, was “doing overtime.” She was told by her doctor, that she needed to be induced if the baby does not come out “on time.”
Wayne’s voice was elevated, even excited, yet there was worry in his tone. He started intensely, as if we left off a minute ago: “Here is the deal. They took Lilliana for induction this morning,” it sounded like a kidnapping thriller, but I listened, ” and although we waited two extra days, 6 in total over the due date, the doctor determined Lilliana did not begin to dilate, and it was past her due date, and that she needed to be induced.” He spoke hurriedly. This thriller sounded familiar. So many women are lured into the process of artificial induction only to experience inability to control their surges and end up with a c-section. I anticipated the news already and my heart sank.
Wayne is a spiritual person. He hand picked my class; for him it was important that his pregnant stubborn wife Lilliana, gets converted to his chosen method of birth – natural. In class, everything went according to plan for four weeks. Then on the last week she told me that the doctor informed her that the baby is too large and that she might need a c-section.
When Lilliana argued that her and husband’s desire was to have a natural birth, the doctor said, “Well, we’ll play it by ear,” a phrase that apparently many doctors say in advance to let their patients know who is in charge. No, not the patient.
Wayne spoke very loudly: “They took her in, and it has been 10 hours now, Morrin. She is in pain and I can see it. What do I do? She went in for a visit, there was no sign of labor, and somehow, she ended up being induced.
Induction is a process of artificial stimulation of labor with several drugs, resembling the natural hormone of oxytocin, that is produced by our brain, and is a very happy hormone, stimulating good mood, laughter and in labor acting as a stimulant for progression of labor. Its artificial simulant, Pitocin, is a vicious drug, although based on oxytocin chemically, it acts in a human body differently. Pitocin stimulates uterine contractions, thus stimulating progression of labor, whether it is time for the baby or not.
“Breathe,” I said. There was not much I could say.
We spoke for a few minutes, he calmed down and was grateful for the support, then hung up as he had to run off to be at the birth.
“Call me in 2 hours, after my class, and put Lilliana on the phone and I will work with her then,” I yelled in the end, but he was already gone.
I waited for his call, but he didn’t call. Two days passed.
That morning I was on my way to the Maimonides hospital for my appointment with a Director of Labor and Delivery bringing the HypnoBirthing classes to the hospital staff: nurses, doctors, so they can give relaxation support to moms-to-be and contribute to the calm birthing experience and what is now becoming increasingly important “patient’s satisfaction.”
I was on my way to the hospital, when my phone rang again. Wayne started talking as soon as I clicked on.
“I was looking to speak to you, but I could not get away,” he said in a calm voice.
“Did you have your baby?” I felt in a daze of a slow motion assessing the expression of “having a baby” as stilted and inappropriate. “How is Lilliana?” I added. My daze continued. I knew what he was going to say.
“Yes, the baby was born and he is adorable!” Wayne uttered expressionlessly.
“Are you happy?”
“Yes, I am happy…. But it was a c-section!” Here he started to cry. Cool tingles went up my spine. I asked him to tell me the whole story.
“She was in pain for 30 hours with no relief. The surges were no longer “surges,” through which she could breathe. They were violent contractions, painful and disturbing. She could not breathe deeply. She could not get control of them. Then the nurse came in and offered an epidural. Lilliana, bless her heart, refused. And, Morrin, she kept refusing, 4 times in a row. They kept coming into the room asking her to take a shot of epidural. They said, “You will feel better, it will all be better.” Then, she gave up and said “OK,” and the whole machine just turned on us. Soon enough the nurse exclaimed that the baby’s heart rate was off and that the baby is going in distress, and so is mother, and to SAVE them, they called a specialist doctor, whose main specialty is cesarian sections. He did what was asked of him. He performed what they called a MIRACLE; he saved Lilliana and the baby from perishing. A miracle!” He sounded cynical, mocking the words of the doctor, angry.
“You sound upset…”
“Because it wasn’t necessary! This is a theater, a display! Morrin, I have to tell you. I retrospect, as I review in my memory how it all happened, this is a well oiled machine, the hospital that is, and the whole labor-delivery process. I realize now, that because Lilliana was so open to induction, believing her doctor that the baby might be too big, and that she is too behind her “timing,” as soon as she said, that she is ok with induction if it is necessary, the doctors were all over her, and it was over for us.”
“Because I feel let down. I was planning for a spiritual intimate experience, and instead she got cut up!”
He paused only to breathe more air in between his sobbing.
“Specialist in miracles that weren’t called for!” His sadness penetrated the space between us.
“I feel your tears in my eyes,” I said to him. “Believe me, I know.”
“I know you do. And… thank you for your support, I so appreciate this opportunity to be open with you.” He was no longer sobbing. The wave of weakness has passed.
“Now is the next stage of life, Wayne,” I said. “The birth is over but the life is just starting. What you do next, is most important. and now you are a father. Help Lilliana to bring up the baby, alive and well. Be there for her, when she needs you, be there for your baby, you are the father you want to be now.”
“Thank you. I appreciate your words.” Wayne’s voice became solid. I could hear his manhood, strength, and gentle love to his new baby taking over his sadness letting go of the past event, and moving into the future. ” I will do anything for her. She is my daughter.”
“Great!” I said.
I didn’t tell him, that 3 days ago, in the Journal of Pediatrics, and a day after in Wall Street Journal, appeared an article, and a video on CNN news (see below), outlining the large study from Duke University, which found that pregnant women whose labors are drug-induced appear to have a greater risk (about 35% increased risk) of bearing children with autism, especially if the baby is male.
There is no sense to tell him this now, when the baby is already born. Now he has to get going in attending the baby’s needs.
But there is an increasingly important message in this for those whose baby is still “inside.”
IF YOU ARE PREGNANT AND HAD DECIDED TO BIRTH IN A HOSPITAL:
AVOID ARTIFICIAL INDUCTION!
DECLARE YOUR RIGHT TO HAVE YOUR BABY IN A DRUG-FREE ENVIRONMENT!
Here are some tips to avoid artificial induction, and with that, avoid autism for your baby:
1. Get inspired to wait until the baby initiates their own birthing process. Start of labor on your own is one of the most important features in healthy labor, and healthy birth of a healthy child. Get serious in communicating with your doctor BEFORE your baby’s due date – ESTIMATED BIRTH DAY, that if you are healthy, your body knows what to do, and your baby knows what to do to birth.
2. Once your labor has started, progress your own labor by using relaxation, visualizations and breathing.
3. Stay at home and labor at home as long as possible. Stay until your surges are 2-4-2 at least!
4. When you go into the hospital make sure you have firmly decided against artificial induction and elect your drug-free birthing experience. Don’t hesitate, don’t be unsure. Educate yourself, and be sure to walk into the hospital knowing the cons and pros of the drugs they offer.
YOUR BABY NEEDS YOUR HELP, YOUR SUPPORT, YOUR LOVE.
Love your baby and love yourself!
And be selfish!
Give your baby a clean non-traumatic birth, so you can have an easier time bringing this child up later on.
Watch this video first from WSJ and get angry against artificial induction practices for pregnant women.
Watch this CNN presentation below.
To find out more information on how you can avoid artificial induction, start up your labor naturally and use self-hypnosis in labor experience, call us at 347-783-9136 for the next HypnoBirthing class of click here to go to scheduling, fees and locations.
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